There have been a few changes for my daughter at childcare this year as she has now moved into the Kindy room. It was a time to get to know some new friends, as many of the kids she played with last year have now left for Prep.
As the weeks went on I started to hear the same name being repeated – let’s call her… ‘Anne’. My daughter would come home talking about Anne regularly. I would ask her “How was your day?” and she would reply with:
“Anne did ‘this’, and it was so funny when Anne did ‘that’”. Once when I dropped her off to Kindy she asked “Can I put my bag next to Anne’s?”
I was thrilled for her. She had made a friend, all on her own, away from our adult friends and their children that she gets to play with regularly.
Given this new found friendship I began thinking it might be nice to have Anne come to the house for a play. As it happened, we bumped into Anne one weekend at the park. It was a perfect opportunity for me to meet Anne’s mum and say hello. So I began with “Hi there, my daughter has been talking a lot about your daughter. Sounds like they are great little friends!” To which Anne’s mum just smiled and turned away.
Not even one word in reply to me!
So there I was, left awkwardly standing at the slide, bewildered. On normal kindy drop off I understand the ‘no-time-for-chatting’ routine and the polite smile and move on (particularly when you are leaving a clingy child behind and therefore distracted and stressed). But in the park, while kids play, with all the time in the world for small talk…I got nothing.
That evening I mentioned to my husband how Anne’s mum gave me the brush off. And to my surprise he knew exactly who I was talking about:
“I also said hello to her at Kindy once and she did the same thing to me!!!” he recalled.
Anne – I’m so sorry darling. You are a sweet little thing but unfortunately as much as we would love to have you, I don’t think you will be able to come over for a play with my daughter. You’ll only be able to enjoy her company at Kindy.
I don’t mind that your mum is super-daggy, but I do mind that she’s a snob!
Can you relate to this? Have you been snobbed? Perfect outlet here ladies to ‘vent’ so feel free to do so in the comment box below!